Hi Loves!
Happy Saturday! I hope you all are having fabulous weekends (& having a glass a bottle of wine for me-I'm stuck inside working on finals! First year of grad school almost done! )
Since finals are around the corner, I've been a bit of a stress ball this week. Mike has also been stressed at his job. Two stress balls equals one important lesson to be learned:
Expect nothing and appreciate everything.
You see, I've realized this week that I haven't been the most supportive girlfriend. I've been wrapped up in getting my finals done and failed to see how stressed out Mike was. I came to realize that I was simply expecting him to pick me up from school, to make dinner, etc. Instead, I should have been appreciating it-especially because I knew how stressed he was as well.
It's easy to fall into a routine in relationships. It's easy to begin to expect things rather than not expecting anything and appreciating everything. It's easy to fall into this vicious cycle.
So, today, I'm reminding myself to simply appreciate. Then I'll be more apt to give Mike the support he needs. As I grow older, I realize more and more that relationships take work. But, the work is what makes them worth having.
I want to be a giver of my full heart in all of my relationships. So, if I stop expecting that things will be done or said, I'll appreciate them so much more when they do happen.
I think that's a lesson worth remembering.
That IS a great lesson worth remembering. I think we are all guilty of this here and there. Relationships are a constant cycle of one person giving more than the other depending on what is going on- as long as it is a give and take and not take, take, take!
ReplyDeleteCongrats on the first year down in grad school! Such a good lesson to learn, and it will vary depending on who is taking more at a certain time. We're all human, realizing that is a good thing!
ReplyDeleteI've done this alot. Its a lesson that I work to improve every day. I have to rely on my fiance for most things. I cant drive because of a disability therefor he has to bring me where I want to go or need to go. I have my mom who can do alot of it but when she's at work it falls on im. He works alot and is working on getting his pilots license. Sometimes I ask him to do more than I should. Thanks for the reminder!
ReplyDeleteAmen! :)
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ReplyDeleteThis is such a good lesson to learn at this stage of your relationship! It will help you through so much. :-)
ReplyDeleteGreat post. Relationships do take work on both sides. Whether it is friendships or romantic relationships. I like the expect nothing and appreciate everything.
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