The other day I was thinking about relationships, specifically romantic ones.
I've just started a full time job for the summer and Mike has been working a lot of extra hours. Between the two of us this has meant some grumpy days and an extra commitment to taking time for our relationship.
Growing up, we are inundated with happy ever afters. Don't get me wrong, I believe in happy endings, but I've come to realize relationships aren't as easy as we're taught from a young age. It's not all pumpkin carriages and pixie dust all the time (although, hopefully there is a good measure of both.)
Relationships take work. They take daily commitment.
So, I realized, if I adhered to "fairytale rules" Mike and I should be broken up by now (even though I love him more than anything). Because guess what,
We Are Not Perfect.
I remember growing anxious last week, because I wondered if other couples experience the same grumpy-notsoawesome-days Mike and I sometimes have.
Of course they do. What we see of other people's relationships is only on the outside, not what there day to day looks like. Every relationship is a perfect struggle-full of happiness, love, joy and sometimes tiredness, anger and sadness. That's life.
So, I'm glad Mike and I aren't perfect by fairy tale standards. I'm glad we have to work at our relationship each and every day, because it reminds me I have something beautiful worth working for.